Saturday, May 23, 2009


I am reading yet again another self-development book or 2! "Change your life in 7 days', 'Trusting You', Power to Choose' etc.. What exactly am I searching for? They all write relatively the same things on positive thinking, success consciousness and believing in you, so what am I not getting, what am I missing?
I am thinking all the 'right things', spreading awareness, inspiring others and understanding the concepts... So I sat, writing and reading more, then a little voice, with a distant tone said to me, 'Other people see the value in you and benefit from it, so why not you?' It seems that I am projecting all this knowledge outwards, inspiring and helping others and once again neglecting myself.

How often do you receive a compliment from someone and say 'thank you', with confidence. How often do you give helpful and positive advice on love, finances and parenting etc to others and yet are unable to follow that very advice and apply it to yourself? If we gave to ourselves the kindness, knowledge and love that which we give out our self esteem, confidence and success would shine.. We could trust and embrace our uniqueness, follow our dreams and enjoy our one life!

Start with the one thing you are good at doing or giving to others and she how much you do and give the same for yourself. Practice doing and giving to yourself, and feel it, I mean really feel it. Self kindness, self respect, no matter how foreign, feel good about it..

I am starting with trusting my ability to create Brave and Beyond........

Saturday, May 9, 2009


Ever get the feeling that your life is not your own, created from others expectations? The feeling of not really living or being yourself for fear of not being good enough in others eyes or beliefs. We neglect ourselves, our hearts and dreams so much that we are floating along doing things or thinking things that we have come to believe that we "should or must' do and think? Is this why depression, addiction, abuse, low self esteem and many other negative problems are on the rise?

Do you ever stop and think 'this is my one life!' 'What do I want?' ' What do I believe?' and then get hit with a million excuses why not to explore the questions, or feel guilty of possibly being selfish? Expectations create FEAR... Feelings of insecurity, limitations, supression, anxiety, the list goes on. We all experience it and the question is how do we overcome it and start confidently being ourselves and finding our own uniqueness?

We can intend to recognise our feelings and act in a way that bests supports ourselves, as it is not a selfish act just self respect! We can acknowledge our own strengths and opinions for it is not egotistical just confidence! We can allow ourselves a choice without guilt, it is our choice!

Do you have expectations over others? How do they affect your relationships? We can start by lifting our expectations off those around us and see the change.. Allowing others to be themselves will inspire you to embrace uniqueness and possibilities.........and to LOVE unconditionally, after all isn't that what we are really wanting??